Fear is something that we all experience. It’s such a visceral feeling, felt deeply. When we resist fear it festers and grows and then it has the potential to destroy something so important to our survival as human beings — connection.

It not only destroys our connection to other people but most importantly it kills the connection to our higher self.

When we resist fear, it causes us to get stuck in it because it takes us out of the present moment as we fear something that hasn’t happened yet. We get stuck in what COULD happen.

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There is nothing wrong with fear and feeling fear. The important part to realize is that it’s only information. Information which tells us what in our lives means the most to us, what we are passionate about, and what we hold dear.

Fear is the representation of potential loss. The potential loss of a loved one, loss of freedom, loss of love, loss of self, loss of community, loss of health and loss of identity. At the core of our fear we worry that we will lose something important, that we will lose love.

But we can never really lose love. Love is always with us. We need not find love in career, money, material things, in other people or anything outside of ourselves because we always have access to a never ending supply of love within. 

Connecting to our higher self means connecting to an unending abundance of love. It is pure love — with no conditions, no what ifs, no ending. It is just love. All that is needed is connection. To bring awareness within and recognize our divineness. We all have access to it if only we take the time to look. Love is the true opposite of fear. Love will conquer fear every single time. If we let it.

When we feel fear it’s a chance to open more to love. When fear is present we can ask – Where am I fearing loss? And then ask if anything can be truly lost? Love is always here. When we fear the loss of something in our lives, what we really miss is the feelings/emotions that the thing/person helped to bring up for us. Comfort, love, safety and/or care. But all of that can be found within ourselves.

Our realness and fullness can never be depended on another being or thing. They simply act as a transducer — loving someone else opens our heart granting us 24 hour access to the love that has always been there. When that outside love goes away and it feels as if that feeling of love has disappeared, what really has happened is that we have closed our hearts. We have shut down the heart chakra and our access to love and that energy. Its existence never goes away – only our choosing to stay open. Love cannot be lost, only our connection to it can.

Fear is one of our greatest gifts because it gives us a chance to really look at what we are afraid of to lose. It gives us a chance to allow ourselves to stay open to love – no matter our relationships, no matter where we work, no matter who loves us, no matter how easy our day is, no matter what mistakes or challenges we face. We can choose to be open to love – ALWAYS. And that is a beautiful gift.

That’s why I’ve created a meditation for when you are feeling stuck in fear. One to help you reconnect with your body and the present moment. Check out the meditation video below.

Well until next time my friends,


Remember …. It’s about loving yourself where you are so that you can get to where you want to go…one step at a time, one change at a time.


Gratitude & Hugs


Jenn Berkelmans

Jenn Berkelmans

Body Awareness & Wellness Coach

I help women with sensitive souls who struggle with overwhelm & emotional fatigue. I help them to reconnect to their inner wisdom and find the stillness within that will allow them to thrive in this chaotic and loud world while helping them to create their own map to health and wellness.

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