What if it was possible to be sensitive AND for it to feel good?
Where BE-ing yourself – is the gift that you get to give the world.
Where your sensitivity is not only your gift but the gateway to stepping into the fullest and brightest expression of you.
My Empathic Queens
I see you…
I know you’re probably wondering….. Can it really feel good to be sensitive? Is that truly possible?
Yes it is. You can exist in all your sensitive radiance AND feel good.
Most Empaths that I meet are torn between trying to mold or fit themselves into the world where they feel their sensitivity is rejected = shutting the sensitivity off and feeling numb to life
OR
Going through the world feeling the full weight of your sensitivity, giving all of yourself and ending up burnt out and needing to hide from everyone = feeling so overly sensitive and feeling raw and overwhelmed
But neither of those scenarios feels good.
But there is a new way, an empowering and freeing way to EXIST in alignment to who you really are AND for it to feel good.
It’s 100% possible.
The work that is needed to do this is what I call “The Loving Integration of Sensitivity, Soul + Self”
Integration because it’s about bringing all the fractured parts of yourself that you have pushed away and allowing all of them to exist as they are.
Your Sensitivity.
Your Soul.
Your Human Self.
And bringing them all together with love to allow all of your BE-ing to exist in your full light.
In this fully integrated way of BE-ing you get to fully embrace the gifts of your sensitivity, connect and embody your purpose and create a life that not only feels authentic to you but feels good.
But, why?
We are currently experiencing a transitional and transformational time in history.
A time when things are shifting.
It is more important than ever that we have people who are aligned to their truth, their purpose and their gifts in order to navigate what may be rocky times ahead.
I believe that Empaths and sensitive souls play a INTEGRAL part in this.
What this world needs is more emotionally resilient, empathetic, intuitive and sensitive people who can help hold the space for what is to come.
To show others the way down the rocky path.
The power of fully Integrated + Embodied Empaths is one of living in the light of your truth and as a result creating change in others.
Not through what you do but through you being the you that only you can be.
For the souls like yourself, who feel things deeply, and despite experiencing such pain and struggle because of your sensitivity still hold hope, love and compassion for others.
To see something better AND be willing to lead the way.
To be willing to be leader, a pioneer, a waymaker who leads by doing your own inner healing + spiritual exploration and in that journey be a guidepost for others.
To help others to do the same.
To heal yourself with love.
To grow with love.
And ultimately to lead others with love.
There is a quote by Maryam Hasnaa that says “A healer does not heal you. A healer is someone who holds the space for you to awaken your inner healer, so that you can heal yourself.”
Your biggest challenges are often a portal into your greatest gifts.
So what next?
The important thing to recognize is that if you resonate with feeling the weight of your sensitivity that you are NOT alone.
Sensitivity and it’s surrounding traits are not favorably viewed in Western culture nor is allowing people to exist as within their own true individuality outside of the collective.
So it’s not uncommon to have experienced conditioning and as a result to hold narratives that are not in alignment with the truth of your soul and that ultimately lead to you rejecting part or all of your sensitivity and all it has to offer.
This causes a sort of unintegrated experience – one where you push away parts of your truth, parts of your experience – the ones often rejected by the collective as a way to cope with all the discomfort, pain and maybe even shame that you have experienced in simply being yourself.
After all, it can be challenging to embrace something that has brought so much pain.
But, over time, it’s often those ways of coping that originally helped you to survive in the past, that kept you feeling comfy and safe, that eventually start to get in your way and don’t feel good anymore.
With time, your soul pulls you to create something different, something that feels more aligned and that genuinely FEELS good.
A life that is built on trust, ease and flow.
When we want to create a new story, a new narrative – we need to first embrace our own story and all that it has entailed, both the challenges and the joys. It’s through true acceptance that we can begin to create a new plotline that truly matches our inherent value, one rooted in love, truth and flow.
So what does the unintegrated experience look like?
Disconnection with Sensitivity
you feel things deeply and care so much but this often leads to acting in ways that are out of alignment to your own needs, wants and desires
you wake up feel caught in a prison of your own thoughts, emotions and fears - struggling to create a different way and a different life
feeling so disconnected from life experiences, like you should be grateful but you just feel so blah
you go through your day feeling so emotionally overwhelmed that eventually you just need to hide yourself away from everything and everyone
you get so caught up in the needs and energies of others and take on how they feel as your responsibility
Disconnection with Soul
get caught in trying to figure it all out and knowing all the answers which is exhausting and overwhelming
desiring to create a fulfilling life on your own terms but feel so stuck in fear, overwhelm and doubt and unable to move forward
are struggling with a shaky connection with your intuition, sometimes it seems spot on and other times it seem so wrong - as a result you struggle to trust your gut
you feel so frustrated because you never feel like you're making enough progress and things don't feel like they're moving fast enough
you feel like the only way that you can receive or get what you want is by hustling or working or giving to others
Disconnection with Human Self
are instinctively drawn to spirituality, as a way of expressing yourself and to find your truth but you can often hold such high and unrealistic standards for yourself (because you already know this stuff)
go through periods of overworking and overcommitting yourself and then feeling completely burnt out without motivation to do anything
strongly desire to be of service and help others but you realize that the way in which you are "helping" others is not working or sustainable
you struggle to know your limits and often don't realize you've pushed yourself past them until you're already burnt out
you struggle to know what your desires, needs or wants are
It’s through the process of coming home to our truth, that we find the peace, love and flow that we inherently feel pulled towards.
You may be ready for a loving integration of sensitivity, soul and self if:
Integrated with Sensitivity
You are ready to embrace the gifts of your sensitivity to really make a difference in this world
You desire to shift away from the energy of survival and into an energy of safe and grounded thriving
You are ready to allow yourself to feel the full spectrum of emotions and feelings in a grounded way to experience your life to the fullest
You are ready to step into your full power and take responsibility for your own feeling experience and let go of what is not yours
You are ready honour your own energetic needs and allow yourself to exist in harmony with your sensitivity
Integrated with Soul
You are ready to claim your purpose and gifts to fully allow yourself to create from soul
You are ready to step into your courage and face the fears that come up with stepping into your power
You are ready to step into an energy of trust & surrender to allow things to be easy
You are ready to wake up in the flow of divine wisdom, inspiration, creativity moving through your day and life with a deep sense of trust and ease in alignment with divine timing
You are ready to stop editing or changing your truth, your voice, your heart and step into the fully radiant, fully expressed, magnificent BE-ing that you are
Integrated with Self
You are ready to let of the idea of fitting in or playing it small and allow yourself to walk through life existing just as you are
You are ready allow all of yourself to exist both as a wonderful messy human and a radiant soul being
You are ready to let go of the striving for approval or validation from outside of yourself and allow yourself to find your love and acceptance from within and your connection to the loving universe
You’re ready to develop a deep connection with your body, honor your own needs and allow yourself to be fully nourished
You are ready to let go of the shoulds and the have tos, and fully allow yourself to create a life that lights you up from the inside out and to shine as the beautiful light you truly are
You are a work of art. Your life is the canvas in which you get to create your own masterpiece. It’s time to stop handing your brush to other people.
But Jenn, I’ve tried to change before, what will be different for me to allow my sensitivity without it overpowering me and weighing me down?
If we compare the idea of the loving integration of sensitivity, soul and self to painting a landscape, you would need to have access to the three primary colors of which you can make any and all other colors. You would need red, blue and yellow. But if one of those colors was missing it would take away over half of the color wheel. Without yellow you can’t have orange or green. Without blue you can’t have purple or green. Each primary color is essential to accessing a beautiful and varied color palette.
This is the same for all the beautiful aspects of you. You need your sensitivity, your soul and your human self all integrated together. If you ignore or push away one of those aspects you miss out on the beautiful wisdom and beauty that aspect provides to the wonderful work of art that you are.
Your soul is always guiding you towards deeper levels of integration, to your truth, and ultimately to being the you, that only you can be.
The Loving Process of BE-ing
Exploration
Explore and know yourself on a deep and profound level. Gain insight into your energetic system, your energetic needs, your authentic self, and what it means to truly BE you. Shed the layers that are not authentic or aligned for you – the old ways of DO-ing, the patterns and personal narratives which are no longer serving you (aka your inner good girl) and step into a way of BE-ing that truly FEELS good.
Embrace
Reclaim and integrate all aspects of that make up your BE-ing. Your sensitivity, your human self, and your soul. By integrating radical compassion, non-judgmental self-reflection, integral acts of love, and self-acceptance you can find peace within your own natural duality (yin + yang, shadow + light, masculine + feminine). So that you can fully embrace your special gifts and step into the most powerful expression of you.
Embodiment
Embodiment is the process of LIVING what you’ve learned. It’s about taking the esoteric, the knowledge, the theory and integrating it through loving ritual and devotion to yourself to begin to shed the layers that are not authentic or aligned for you and start to live out a narrative that matches your inherent value, worth and wholeness so that you can share your inherent wisdom and magic with the world.
Expression
Shedding the layers of “should” and “obligation” to create a life that is truly yours. One that is rooted in ease, joy and flow. Allow yourself to exist in your own natural and inspired glory. Live your truth and find your authentic way of BE-ing you. Because this is your ultimate purpose, to be the you, that only you can be. It’s time to be the creator and artist of your life to generate a truly inspired and magical life that is on your own beautiful creation.
Hi I’m Jenn Berkelmans
As a deep feeler, intuitive and sensitive soul I spent the first 25 years of life feeling the edges of being too much, too sensitive and too emotional. As a result, for most of my life I felt like I didn’t quite fit in. I shunned my sensitive and emotional sides because I thought it would make me more loveable and acceptable. Which led to quickly becoming very skillful at being the “good girl, the yes girl and the I’ll be whatever you want girl.” My desire to “help” others was so strong but also rooted in survival mode that it always ended up coming at the expense of my own needs, wants and energy.
At 25 years old, after 4 years of a grueling college experience, starting an unfulfilling and dead-end career and receiving a serious health scare – I experienced a huge wake up call. My wellbeing suffered, my joy suffered and my peace suffered, all under the guise of trying to “fit in”. And the truth is that I was so afraid of being the real me because I thought that would make me unlovable.
But my calling to something more would not be quiet and I found myself on a journey of deep inner work (the same work that I use with my clients) and I began to create my life from the ground up. Slowly, I started to integrate parts of my truth, finding what it meant to be authentic and slowly and courageously began to incorporate it into my life and my relationships. Each of those moments felt super scary but also empowering because I began to see what was possible. As my confidence grew, I slowly began to take bigger steps to do the things that really lit me up while finding a deep level of safety and groundedness within myself.
Since stepping into Coaching full time I have worked with many sensitive souls and empaths and I feel so greatly blessed to watch as each person expands and grows into their own purpose, gifts and desires. I truly believe that each person who embodies their purpose and truth changes the world. You can read more about Jenn here.
